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The moment we leave school, we’re supposed to know our next step, what we want to do, and how we’re going to do it. We’re told we should have fire in our bellies to get the job done. But, what if you have no clue what you want to do?

This is a common issue, but how is it possible to know what you want to do with your life when you’re still a teenager? It’s a huge stretch! However, this problem doesn’t simply end with career choices; it drags on throughout the rest of your days, causing pressure that can seem overwhelming.

Jordan Lee Dooley’s readers often ask her how they’re supposed to find out what their purpose in life is. Surely, if we know our purpose, we know what steps to take next? The problem is, it’s not that simple. Everyone is unique, and we’re all trying to work out what we want, what we don’t want, and how to make it work. The pressure to know exactly what you want can be enough to push you completely away from your intended course.

The good news? You really don’t have to have it all figured out right now. It’s entirely possible to just go with the flow and make decisions as you move through your life. Enjoy the present moment and concentrate on making it as beautiful as possible. The rest will fall into place.

Many women, in particular, feel pressure to find their purpose early in life. Not being able to do that often leaves them feeling as though they’ve failed. Dooley argues that this mindset is nothing but dangerous. It causes you to search for your purpose as though it’s set in stone, missing the moment in the process.

Modern society likes to put labels on everything, leading you to put a label on yourself or place yourself in a box. This might make you feel trapped, as though you can’t move in any other direction or test your boundaries. It’s time to set yourself free and realize that searching for a purpose often causes you to become even more lost.

By coming to terms with the fact that it’s okay to not know everything, you can start to carve out a life for yourself, which doesn’t have to be defined from day one.”

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