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BN3: How To Be Fearless, Freedom From Perfectionism

For the full book: How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism

BN3: How To Be Fearless, and Freedom From Perfectionism


In reality, most of us are functional as perfectionists but don’t live optimally because of it.

Do you ever struggle to make decisions? Perfectionism.

Do you ever get intimidated by social situations? Perfectionism.

Do you ever procrastinate? Perfectionism.

Do you get depressed easily? (Likely) perfectionism.

Do you have low self-esteem? Perfectionism.

Perfectionists are driven mad or frozen in place by the chasm between desire and reality, which impairs their ability to progress and enjoy life. Only imperfectionists can tolerate imperfection, which is the defining attribute of our world.

Perfectionists desire to act, look, and/or feel perfect. On a superficial level, it seems like something to be proud of, but not when you dig into the real implications of it. When you add “ism” to the end of “perfection” and “imperfection,” the natural connotations of the root words are reversed. Far from perfect, perfectionism is irrational, crippling, restrictive, and even lethal (e.g., anorexia and depression/suicide).

Thankfully, perfectionism isn’t a permanent characteristic. We are capable of changing ourselves, but only with the right strategies.

If we fully grasped the reality of perfectionism’s destructive influence on humanity, we would not be so eager and happy to label ourselves as perfectionists.

Perfectionism causes serious problems that are commonly diagnosed as something else. For example, it is a very common root cause of depression, which can then lead to a host of other problems, such as addiction.

Perfectionism is an imposter — a hoax; it’s the worst mindset you can pick out of a hat. Imperfectionism, however, is the real deal; it’s luxury… five stars… the best. As you read along, seek to develop new mental relationships with these words. Maybe you’ll start saying, “I’m such an imperfectionist!”

Did you know? The poster child of perfectionism is anorexia: the desire to reach the “perfect weight” or body image. It’s one of the most dangerous and difficult mental disorders to treat.

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